Wasted some time following a link from SingleMind and Vox about “Bridezillas” — and the commentary is both hilarious and fearsome. First time around I made the mistake of not eloping; next time around I will go to the courthouse. Later — probably a few weeks later — a nice party for a few of our friends. This is (almost) a non-negotiable. The “almost” part is about whether it might be solemnized by a clergyman. Given that I think that there are men and women more useful as sources of counsel than more traditionally recognized clergy, I would be within myself recognizing that person’s role as a kind of formality rather than as a recognition per se of the legitimacy of that office to solemnize unions. But I could do that.
the ONLY reason i will have anything even closely related to a ‘wedding’ the second time around is because i have two little girls who are dreamy about being flower girls and bridesmaids!!! hehehehehe
so, i’ll buy the three of us pretty dresses, give them some flower petals, verbally invite only very close family/friends … no sitting … only standing … vows … little girls with flower petals in pretty dresses … and wa-la!!!
I was lucky; even though it was my second wife’s first marriage, she had no desire for any sort of wedding ceremony. We went to the courthouse, and then had dinner for the immediate family at a nice restaurant.
My first wedding was pretty much arranged by the wife of the pastor who married us; I was just nineteen and what did I know? The next time ’round, I’m not as concerned about the “where” as I am about the “why” and everything else is negotiable.